My friend said to me the other day, “Parents always want a son or a daughter. They never want the person that happened to be their son or daughter.”

Meaning : people always have this image in their head about somebody else’s character and rarely accept somebody else just the way they are.

Sometimes people even enforce their image to somebody, and when they have resistance, they said, “I don’t like you, you’re not what i imagine in my head.”

And the funny things is, a lot of people that want to fulfill those images that created by others. They are not completely free because their choices are limited by perception by others.

Free yourself from your peers’ opinions, views and all that they think you should be.

Before it’s too late.

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You go to IT seminar and they give you this bag with a lot of free stuff in it. Mostly brochures about products and a nice dvd with softcopy, and a t-shirt that write whatever. Then, some colleague just got home from his holiday and give you this small, cute, and useless scented candle. At night, you go to your friend’s wedding and receive a mini glass that has writing saying “As We become one forever”. Before go to bed, you chuck all this free stuff to a drawer with free notepad, free pen, and spiderweb. It’s a small thing if you’re an introvert but if you like social gathering, this free stuff thing has got to stop.

1. Just say no politely. Smile and tell your giver that you didn’t bring any bag. Or if he give you bag, tell him you didn’t bring any car or you should take public transportation.
2. Dump it. Say sorry to mother earth for this violation and dump the free stuff mercilessly.
3. Digitalize it and then dump it. Take a picture or get a scanner (for postcard, birthday card) and put it on flickr. If you want to reminiscence you can watched that photograph instead. It still can tell thousand words you know.
4. Don’t dump it, shred it to pieces. Time to use those nasty shredder in the corner of your office to clean brochures, free registration form, and thank you notes.
5. Give it to your friend that need that stuff. A friend maybe need a notepad to write her groceries, and another friend maybe need a scented candle for her bathtub.
6. Give it to your friend the collector. Believe it or not, there’s people out there that collected wedding souvenir. So give it to them to add their collection.

A little cold heart will be helpful while being sentimental doesn’t help at all. But I want a free space, instead of free stuff. How about you?