Don’t you think it’s about time you get married?

Don’t you think it’s about time you have children?

Don’t you think it’s a stupid decision to quit your job?

Sounds familiar? Well, the typical answer would be smile nicely while thinking about seven possible exits from that situation. You can try, “No, i’m not in a hurry to get married.” “No, I don’t like kids.” Then, suddenly they hit you with “But, WHY?”

Well, this sentence is a perfect answer to end it. Practice saying it.

“It’s my personal and private decision, and i really think you should respect it.”

Below sentences are taken from here

Remember when most people react or judge your choices, they’re revealing something about themselves, their beliefs or anxieties, even if they seem to be speaking about you (or believe they are). While that sort of behavior can affect you, it really and truly is not about you. Once you start to notice this, life can get pretty liberating.

Sekali lagi saya mengkontradiksi diri saya sendiri, seperti posting ini vs posting ini. Saya menulis ini sebab saat google reader saya penuh tiap hari senin karena kebanyakan subscribe di berbagai blog, saya tidak bisa berhenti berpikir (meskipun terus membaca), apakah buku lebih menarik daripada blog atau sebaliknya blog lebih menarik daripada buku. Oke, apakah blog lebih menarik daripada buku?

1. Kamu bisa melink sebuah posting ke berbagai tempat. Seperti ke sini, ke sini, ke sini dan ke sini. Buku tidak bisa ada linknya, kecuali mungkin e-book. Dengan link, postingan kamu bisa jadi lebih kaya isi bahkan bila hanya dengan postingan yang sederhana.
2. Bisa dengan mudah melakukan penyelidikan. Kalau tiba-tiba menemukan istilah yang aneh di blog seperti polyethylene, maka kita bisa dengan mudah mencarinya di internet. Jika kita menemukannya di buku, maka kita harus mencatatnya terlebih dahulu sambil bertanya-tanya dalam hati tentang apa artinya.
3. Update dengan cepat termasuk jika kamu melakukan kesalahan. Cukup coret, dan tuliskan updatenya. Jika anda melakukan kesalahan penerjemahan seperti buku freakonomics (menerjemahkan kata sunlight sebagai sabun Sunlight dan bukan cahaya matahari), cukup diralat dengan cepat dan berharap tidak ada orang lain yang sempat melihatnya.
4. Kebebasan menulis 1000%. Tidak peduli ada editor, atau penerbit yang tidak suka dengan bagian ini, atau tokohnya harus lebih sopan dan sebagainya. Tulis apapun di blog anda. Sesuka anda. Baik tentang piala eropa, bos di kantor, kelahiran, jeratan TV, pesta blogger 2008. Kebebasan yang bertanggung jawab tentunya.
5. Komentar lebih variatif dan berbagai macam, sehingga pemilik blog tahu orang-orang seperti apa yang sudah membaca blognya.

Jadi? Pilih blog nih, atau baca postingan yang ini?

Com’ ment`er n. 1. One who makes or writes comments; a commentator; an annotator.

I sometimes do the blogwalking and left some comments in another blogger’s blog. By the time, I visited my 20th something blog, I can’t even remember what comment I left on the first blog. If you cannot remember what comment you left in another person blog, how can the owner even remember your comment among many?

From now on i’m trying to be a Stealr Commenter on other blog. That’s a phrase i come up on my head to describe comments that can steal attention from the original blog (like movie’s scene stealer). Remember Rachel Maryam in Arisan?). How you do it? Well, I can think one or two things.

1. Add another missing angle from the original post. Have some facts to back it up and not just your opinion.
2. Single sentence is illegal. Write at least two or more lines and not some alternative of premium. Don’t make comment at all if you only need to left your fingerprint in someone else’s blog.
3. Write something different. A poem, something funny, something weird, writing that so in-your-face but still relevant to the post.

Today, a simple comment, tomorrow, a 400 pages books (with 1600 simple comment) =D.

If you’re Indonesian and you create a blog, you might prefer using indonesian language rather than more universally accepted language like English. Some mixed it up a little using both language mainly because you don’t give a damn to translate it in your blog main language. Well, there’s some advantages on using either one of the language on your blog.

Indonesian language  :

• Easier to write a post because you’re writing using your native language.
• You will be accepted on Indonesian reader because it’s easier to understand.
• Reader will easily guess what the writer’s nationality is.

English language:

• Harder to write unless you’re already so good beyond belief with your english.
• Your readers’ circle grows because foreign people (expatriate included) that understand english can read your blog.
• Although it somewhat obvious, reader can be confused with your nationality.

The main thing is what the purpose of your blog is. If you’re creating blog as your diary, you’ll prefer an indonesian blog, but if you want to get more various kind of reader or to encourage indonesian people to learn english, try to write your blog in almost grammatically correct English